Lurkers, say hi.
I don't fucking know.

If you are a lurker just say hi.
I know the majority of people who frequent this site are lurkers, so I'm inviting them to step out of the shadows.
What's a lurker?
Gboysonic said:
What's a lurker?
Someone who just watches and doesn't interact. I was a lurker for almost a year when I found this site back in 2015.
Hey, back from loli hiatus....didn't go well
Life_isn't_fair said:
I know the majority of people who frequent this site are lurkers, so I'm inviting them to step out of the shadows.
I think a lot of them don't read the forums though. Still a nice thought, it'd be cool to see more activity here!
Sumire-chan said:
I think a lot of them don't read the forums though. Still a nice thought, it'd be cool to see more activity here!
Yeah, that's why I made this thread, but now they may be intimidated by the "veterans" that posted here, or not, whatever...

Well, even if it's just a bit of them who read the forums, that's still a lot. In this VERY old thread from about 3 years ago, DMSchmidt cites that there were a lot of daily accesses, and I assume that this number only grew.

bonjovie said:
Hey, back from loli hiatus....didn't go well
Hey, I remember you! Were you still here!?
Life_isn't_fair said:
Were you still here!?
No, I attempted to rid myself of my pedoness these past years. My endeavors were marginally successful, being loli sober and without masturbation as a whole proved to not only be possible for me, but allowed me to give more energy toward doing things I wanted. However with no emotional outlet I've found myself feeling more isolated than before, which has left me kinda stagnant.

So I've supposed I can't just ignore what I am SO eh, fuck it, I'm back.
bonjovie said:
[...] being loli sober and without masturbation as a whole proved to not only be possible for me, but allowed me to give more energy toward doing things I wanted.
I did this one time also, starting in the christmas after lolibooru restarted. It was probably the best 70 days of my life, but I found it to be kinda dumb and senseless and returned. I did the extra challenge of not even thinking about sexual things directly, and this coupled with being alone with my thoughts on times that I would probably masturbate otherwise made me reflect a lot and ultimately made me understand and accept myself better.
bonjovie said:
So I've supposed I can't just ignore what I am SO eh, fuck it, I'm back.
I actually had to go through the inverse of what(I assume)you went through: accepting that I'm probably not a pedophile, just a "pure lolicon". Most people would be happy to know that, but I wasn't for complex reasons.
Not to discourage your line of thinking, as it's probably the healthiest for what it is, but I'd say you're still a pedo despite your exclusive preference of the fictional. Say for example if I only found drawn men atrractive opposed to real ones, does that mean I'm not a homosexual? It's more on the idea that defines a "sexuality" or whatever you'd say pedophilia is.

I do know where you're coming from though (maybe) as I find drawn girls far more attractive.
I will admit, I've thought about giving up porn in general sometimes. Not masturbation (heck no! though I should probably try that challenge where you restrict yourself to only gentle touches), but porn, at least. I'm not one of those moral crusaders nor do I think it applies to everyone, but I know that I, specifically, have had it do some of the harm people talk about.

I'm addicted to it, in the sense that I spend more time a day browsing porn than I'm happy with. It's hurt my self-image, because most people in porn (of any kind) look way more attractive than me. It's made me focus too much of my everyday thoughts on sexuality, "too much" meaning that I miss out on other, more valuable things because it takes up too much space. And most of all, it's usually an exercise in staring at things I don't and can't have, which makes me feel worse about my life.

So overall, it'd probably be healthier for me to give it up or at least cut back a lot. But I almost certainly won't~ What really doesn't help is that I love collecting great art, which makes sites like these super attractive.
(Oh, that's the type of discussion I missed so much in this site! So, ladies and gentlemen, watch as I shift the topic completely off the path it was initially in!)

bonjovie said:
[...] I'd say you're still a pedo despite your exclusive preference of the fictional. [...] It's more on the idea that defines a "sexuality" or whatever you'd say pedophilia is.
Yeah, I thought this it a lot, and came with definitions that I find useful to discuss. I usually spit them out before I say anything, but this time I forgot(although I put a link to my definition of "pure lolicon").

I see pedophila and lolita complex(lolicon) as 2 different things(although they are synonyms in Japanese). I define pedophilia to be a chronophilia(attraction based on age) on the pre-pubescent range to real people specifically, but lolita complex(lolicon) to be the attraction to the artistic concept of a loli(a fictional character with child-like characteristics). Notice that neither of them are illegal anywhere, because they are just attractions, but doing some things based on those attractions usually are indeed illegal.

These 2 usually intersect, but not necessarily, so I think it's useful to think of them as separate. There's people who are pedophiles but not lolicons, and there's people like me, who are lolicons but not pedophiles... And there's what's likely the majority, who are both pedophiles and lolicons.

Sumire-chan said:
[...]
I'm addicted to it, in the sense that I spend more time a day browsing porn than I'm happy with.
[...]
So overall, it'd probably be healthier for me to give it up or at least cut back a lot.
I have gotten through a phase like that, and I got out with my 70 day NoFap, although I'm in another less extreme one right now. What I know, and it's something which is literally the foundational argument of NoFappers, it's that cutting porn and/or masturbation(more porn than masturbation really) is very good for your health and well being, not just because you have more time and thought-space, but also because it losens up your dopamine detectors(which become insensitive and demand more extreme doses to get the same satisfaction, as with any addiction) so they can actually feel something again. I can say that this really happens having done a NoFap before, but it takes a lot of "not doing it" to get there, and I don't if you are willing to do it.
If you insist. Hi!
gdragon said:
If you insist. Hi!
Yay! Back to the original topic! It's been a really long time since I said that to someone here, but be welcome!
totuku said:
Suuuup
bruhhhh. get a profile image. Hi.
I don't think I am a lurker, because I like to comment on pictures. But I do want to participate in the forum with what I think is an interesting topic. BTW, Life_isn't_fair, I lived in Brasil for three enjoyable years when I was a lot younger.
Hello Everyone, I am really enjoying this site. I came here from Allthefallen. Also if anyone could tell me how to upload a profile pic that would be great.
TinyTina said:
Also if anyone could tell me how to upload a profile pic that would be great.
go to a post you like and read everything on the left of the screen. Look for the word "avatar"
Do you consider lurkers the ones that critcize posts without posting anything and denigrating other's involvement in keeping the site alive? If so, I know a bunch of these fellows. :p
yobsolo said:
Do you consider lurkers the ones that critcize posts without posting anything and denigrating other's involvement in keeping the site alive? If so, I know a bunch of these fellows. :p
def not me lmao
Alacaster said:
go to a post you like and read everything on the left of the screen. Look for the word "avatar"
Thank you, I hope what i have set works.
Do I have to? :/
Not sure if I count as a lurker any more.

But hi anyway.
Hi! This site needs more life!